I’ve banned myself from the word “just.” Not entirely. Only when I’m reaching for words of support.
Toxic support usually sounds like this: — You just need to stop… — You just need to find… — You just need to…
Well. That’s just a great way to belittle the problem and the person in one move.
Because, fuck damn it, if it were that simple, they’d have done it already. On their own. Without your priceless toxic advice.
If a grown adult has a problem — it clearly isn’t simple for them.
Anyway. I’m learning to support other people (and myself while I’m at it).